Romantic Nobody

[Me & the World]

How do you write authentic romance? I haven't passed the crush stage in my personal experience, and i don't want to write cheesy stuff. Help!!!

[Rage]

All romance is cheesy, cliché and makes you cringe. You should find someone who interests you and go for it, cuz the only way you'll be able to write about romance is if you experience it yourself.

Maybe I should go ahead and say, don't go for someone purely to gather intel for story writing, that'd be baaad. :sarcasm: But yeah, get your freak on blud.

Although having said that, it's not hard to imagine how a romantic situation would unfold. The majority of the time, people are thinking exactly what you're thinking. :sarcasm:

[Me & the World]

All romance is cheesy, cliché and makes you cringe. You should find someone who interests you and go for it, cuz the only way you'll be able to write about romance is if you experience it yourself.

Maybe I should go ahead and say, don't go for someone purely to gather intel for story writing, that'd be baaad. :sarcasm: But yeah, get your freak on blud.

Although having said that, it's not hard to imagine how a romantic situation would unfold. The majority of the time, people are thinking exactly what you're thinking. :sarcasm:

Thanks. You're probably right. i do have an enormous crush but 1) he's three years older than i am, and 2) my dad would kill me. ;)

[Emily Elizabeth]

well. you know....romance doesn't have to be just about love; it can be about any powerful emotion, such as hate or desperation. I feel that those feelings are what most inspires what most would call my more romantic writings.

[Rage]

well. you know....romance doesn't have to be just about love; it can be about any powerful emotion, such as hate or desperation. I feel that those feelings are what most inspires what most would call my more romantic writings.

Mmmm I completely agree, although it depends on what the subject is about. As romance can lead to a handful of emotions.

I reckon Me & The World is probably going to be writing about that moment where you look at someone and realize you have a massive crush on them. Haha it's proper amazing that, like one of them slow-motion moments where you can see every spec of detail on their face and your stomach floats away. :sarcasm: Rofl then they usually catch you looking because it eventually turns from a quick look into a jaw dropped stare, and then you blush and almost walk into some coincidentally placed obstacle.

/wowrant

[Emily Elizabeth]

Mmmm I completely agree, although it depends on what the subject is about. As romance can lead to a handful of emotions.

I reckon Me & The World is probably going to be writing about that moment where you look at someone and realize you have a massive crush on them. Haha it's proper amazing that, like one of them slow-motion moments where you can see every spec of detail on their face and your stomach floats away. :sarcasm: Rofl then they usually catch you looking because it eventually turns from a quick look into a jaw dropped stare, and then you blush and almost walk into some coincidentally placed obstacle.

/wowrant

heehhh I miss moments like that. I guess when yer in in love wiff a bisexual homeless slut who is exploiting you as a plaything it's hard to see another person so...kindly

[Rage]

heehhh I miss moments like that. I guess when yer in in love wiff a bisexual homeless slut who is exploiting you as a plaything it's hard to see another person so...kindly

Fucked it you. xD

[Emily Elizabeth]

Fucked it you. xD

SAyWhaT?WHo?CHHIKINPOO?

[Rage]

Chicken poo? Lmaoo.

[Julian]

How do you write authentic romance? I haven't passed the crush stage in my personal experience, and i don't want to write cheesy stuff. Help!!!
In my opinion, not having a personal experience is a lame excuse and a joke of an excuse that is!
Why? well you don't see SF writers doing some intergalactic stuff, producing babies out of test tubes and having a spaceship as a lover don't you! :P

All romance is cheesy, cliché and makes you cringe. You should find someone who interests you and go for it, cuz the only way you'll be able to write about romance is if you experience it yourself.

I agree with this. Although people say that the feeling of falling in love is an astounding, butterfly-in-the stomach-fluttering kind of feeling, they spout the same fucking nonsense every single time of every fucking day. Even though they feel enlightened (after frolicking most of the time), at the end of the day, they still drink water like regular humans, and their promise to be more mature are often said, not done.

Thing is, romance can be as shallow as how Britney Spears portrays it (black & white) or as deep and as endearing as Romeo and Juliet (bad example...).

[Rage]

In my opinion, not having a personal experience is a lame excuse and a joke of an excuse that is!
Why? well you don't see SF writers doing some intergalactic stuff, producing babies out of test tubes and having a spaceship as a lover don't you! :P


I agree with this. Although people say that the feeling of falling in love is an astounding, butterfly-in-the stomach-fluttering kind of feeling, they spout the same fucking nonsense every single time of every fucking day. Even though they feel enlightened (after frolicking most of the time), at the end of the day, they still drink water like regular humans, and their promise to be more mature are often said, not done.

Thing is, romance can be as shallow as how Britney Spears portrays it (black & white) or as deep and as endearing as Romeo and Juliet (bad example...).

Eh, you can't put sci-fi and romance in the same boat. Romance is a subjective, delicate subject matter that is interpreted differently by everyone. If you don't have any romantic experiences then all you'll be able to write about are your theories of what may happen in a romantic situation, and all the theories and examples you have from movies/books are merely the director/actors/authors own interpretation of how they've experienced romance.

I'm not saying that there's going to be massive differences on how romance is experienced because everyone is exceptionally similar, but it's all the subtle things that you'd never think of that occur which make a good romantic piece of writing stand out. :sarcasm:

/raaaaaaaaant butidoagreemostpeopledomakesuchafussoutoflove

[chiaro0990]

For Me and the world: the good way to make a good story is use your experiences in romance and some imagination. Actually at your age is pretty easy to make teenage romance, don't think too much of it. You said to yourself that you're on the crush stage, use that as a good start for your introduction and add some other scenes which you wanna happen to your story. For example: For my introduction, I have a crush on the other table. he was kind and gentle, though he barely notice me--which is happening in real life. Since I'm making my story based on this, I use my imagination to create a scenario that he will notice me whether good or bad. If you're worrying about cheesy-lines or cliche stuffs, don't worry it, that makes the readers feel cringy. I've also thought it that way too, but the readers really like my story, hoping I finish it immediately. lol So the only tip I can say to you, if you're feeling glee whenever you start writing, you're on the right track kiddo.
PS. don't use too much figures of speech, it makes the story cheesy itself.

If you start writing, please send me a VM. I'm also fan of romance :P

[Jose]

"Romance", that's a deep subject to talk about. I’ll list my opinion here; feel free to ignore this post.

What makes the "romance" story interesting is not the romance itself, or the love-y dove-y talking, but the obstacles and the dilemmas that hinder that love. I, as a reader, would never read a book full of bare emotions that gets nowhere, revolved about one idea "I love you". For example, what made “Romeo and Juliette” that much interesting isn’t the part where the rich boy kissed the foolish girl, but the part where the two family’s feud strengthened their love, and the unexpected tragedy ending.

One last thing, NO VAMPIRES’ ROMANCE.

[Bwandls]

Well, in my opinion, not all romance has to be cheesy... unfortunately, what most people consider "romantic" is the cheesy, basic high school boy-falls-for-girl-despite-melodramatic-circumstances type of scenarios, the everyday stuff that we've all heard over and over again. But there are many ways to represent love and romance, in unstereotypical ways. It all depends on how you yourself are going to personify or represent love.

I have a few things I can use as an example: I once read a poem about a dustpan who was in love with a broom, and it was unique, well-written, and touching. Another novel I read, "Come, Thou Tortoise" had a little section in it about a pie factory that was in love with the hotel across the way, but they had this big road between them.

And, in the more traditional sense, I present a simple love poem by Frank O'Hara. It's not too cheesy, it's descriptions are unique and vivid. Romance that isn't cheesy is created when you can show the reader love from a different view point, or from you're eyes, I think.


Having a Coke with You

is even more fun than going to San Sebastian, Irún, Hendaye, Biarritz, Bayonne
or being sick to my stomach on the Travesera de Gracia in Barcelona
partly because in your orange shirt you look like a better happier St. Sebastian
partly because of my love for you, partly because of your love for yoghurt
partly because of the fluorescent orange tulips around the birches
partly because of the secrecy our smiles take on before people and statuary
it is hard to believe when I’m with you that there can be anything as still
as solemn as unpleasantly definitive as statuary when right in front of it
in the warm New York 4 o’clock light we are drifting back and forth
between each other like a tree breathing through its spectacles

and the portrait show seems to have no faces in it at all, just paint
you suddenly wonder why in the world anyone ever did them

I look
at you and I would rather look at you than all the portraits in the world
except possibly for the Polish Rider occasionally and anyway it’s in the Frick
which thank heavens you haven’t gone to yet so we can go together the first time
and the fact that you move so beautifully more or less takes care of Futurism
just as at home I never think of the Nude Descending a Staircase or
at a rehearsal a single drawing of Leonardo or Michelangelo that used to wow me
and what good does all the research of the Impressionists do them
when they never got the right person to stand near the tree when the sun sank
or for that matter Marino Marini when he didn’t pick the rider as carefully
as the horse

it seems they were all cheated of some marvelous experience
which is not going to go wasted on me which is why I am telling you about it.

I hope this helps! Just my opinion, but romance has many opportunities to not be cheesy. Just don't write generic stuff.

And btw, you know what they say... inexperienced people don't write worse because they don't know. Some people think they write better because they still don't have any expectations in they're minds yet! You're not blocked by all the realities of romance, or the realities people think are real.

ANYWAYS, I'm rambling. Bleh! xD

[Dabs]

Romance is generally cheesy because real love isn't very interesting. Granted, I've never been in love, but I've dated and had some girlfriends, and trust me, it's never as "exciting" as it is in the movies. Then again, fiction often depicts extraordinary circumstances, so of course it shouldn't be completely mundane. Give the characters some obstacles, maybe get a bit philosophical (without getting to broad and brooding--good luck with that lol), and try to make your characters round. Don't let the romantic relationship solely define them.

[Nevermore]

Personally, I feel that the only real way to write a romance is to make it real for the reader. If you create characters and circumstances that the readers can truly care about, I doubt what you write will come across as 'cheesy'.

I've personally been past the crush, deep emotional connection, heartbreak, and have since come out into a place where I really DO feel different. 'Enlightened' even. So yes, it does help to have been 'in love', because it adds a weight of experience and feeling to it, but who says that a romance only has to be about the 'love' cliche?

I'd say that arguably, the best romances in writing are those that work as a means of character development, rather than simply being the focus point for the whole novel. Rather than picking up a story and instantly thinking, 'This is a romance novel', it should feel like your reading a story about a character who just happens to fall in love along the way. I feel that if romance is uniquely character focused, as opposed to being used as the framework for the whole damn story, you come a cut above the ordinary.